Or, maybe not.
Over the past few months I’ve been asked for advice by some of the soon-to-be or new moms that I know. (I am not going to name any names to protect the innocent…) Well, I just have a few things to say.
I. HAVE. STRONG. OPINIONS.
There, I said it. I feel better, do you?
I don’t always consider myself to be very bold or anything, but when I get to talking about pregnancy, childbirth, doctors, breastfeeding, baby-wearing, etc. My opinions take over. I am pretty sure it’s not always easy for the "advice-seekers" to hear what I have to say, but I have the need to say it.
At the risk of offending those who will take this post personally, I say, "I am sorry, but I have to say it."
- The baby will be born when it is ready, induction by pitocin is NOT always a good thing and a planned induction date is not reason for celebration.
- Birth isn’t a sickness and a hospital is NOT always the best place to bring your baby into the world.
- There is nothing "comforting" about being stuck in a bed strapped to monitors.
- Women who choose to birth at home without a doctor are not weird. Trusting your body to do what it is created to do does not make one a weirdo.
- Not all women who birth at home, or nurse their babies longer than a few months, or co-sleep, or wear their babies are granola-crunching hippies. We’re in the mainstream too!
- A pediatrician does not always know what is best for your baby. Trust your instincts, don’t just agree to what some guy/gal with a degree says!
- Breastfeeding IS natural, but it doesn’t always come naturally. Like anything else in life, the more you work to improve at it, the better it will get!
- Pumping is not = to breastfeeding.
- VERY few women are unable to nurse a baby with success.
- Holding a newborn DOES NOT spoil that child!
- A newborn that like to be held is NOT a grumpy/fussy/clingy-baby, IT’S JUST A BABY!
- Helping a new mom should not mean you are there to hold or feed her newborn, you should be there to help her cook/clean/do laundry, etc. A new mom has waited over nine months to hold that baby that has been growing inside her, are you going to take that away from her and make her do a load of laundry or cook you a meal?
- A Daddy does not need to give the baby a bottle in order to be "involved" with raising the baby. There is more to attachment than feeding time.
Well, as you can imagine I could go on for a while more, but I am sure some of you are already rolling your eyes at me. I just thought you deserved a warning, if you would like my advice or want to hear what works for us, that’s what you’re going to get. My opinions. No it isn’t fact, no I am not a doctor, no I am not the world’s greatest mom.
I’m just a mom with three kids and one on the way and I know what feels right.